On Self-control & Satisfaction

Do you think you have self-control? Or are you impulsive, and give in to every need? More importantly, how much do you think you should have self-control? I consider myself a reasonably self-controlled individual, when it matters. And by that, I mean that I can stop myself from indulging in something if I know I really …

Writing therapy and people’s perceptions of me

When I began this blog over 2 years ago, back when absolutely nobody knew it existed, I'd begun it to write. I'd write my thoughts, my feelings, the things I didn't quite know how to talk to people about. It was a kind of therapy, a beautiful, self-satisfying therapy that allows you to express yourself …

On Funerals & Forgiveness

I was at a funeral the other day, surrounded by the mourning friends and family of a lovely old lady, and listening to her daughter's heartfelt eulogy as I dwelled on something I have observed. At all the funerals I've been to and heard of, I always notice how no one has anything but good …

“I like your bag”

If you pass someone on the street and really like their bag, tell them. If you think the girl in your college class has amazing hair, let her know that. If you appreciate something of someone's, and think it makes a good compliment, go for it! This is something I started doing a few years …

Consoling

My friends tell me I excel at giving advice. About matters of love and life. They come to me with problems, arguments, fights. I do my best to make it all alright. When they're sad I try my best to make it better. Ensure they're happier. I ask questions and tell them what I would …

Let’s bring the champion back

Champion. Predictably, I picture an athlete. Famous sports players, my favourites to watch. Friends who are skilled. Myself as an athlete, haha, I wish. If only I could play sports. I do run though, or rather I ran. Past tense. On a regular basis at one time. But I've become lazy, I no longer have …

If My Arms Could Talk

As I sat on the bed, one arm outstretched in the grasp of the parlour didi, I was having a common mental battle with myself. "Don't be rude," I chided myself, "try and talk to her. Ask her something. Make a funny comment. Aren't people expected to talk to each other in the parlour? She isn't starting …

I Resolve to Resolve

Come 30th December of every year, the chorus begins – “What resolutions have you set for yourself this year?” For some odd reason, everyone seems to have undue interest in knowing what everyone else is resolving to do new the following year. Perhaps it’s because they are looking for inspiration to decide what they themselves …

Read More Books!

At age two, I was that child who had memorised the books my parents read to me regularly and I could read what was on all the pages out of familiarity. A few years later, I’d progressed to reading on my own, and very soon after that, I was constantly devouring the new books I …

The Dynamics of Friendships

Somewhere, along all the friendships I've had, I have come to the realisation that there are several factors that can impact two people being friends. These factors, much like many other good things, are found in pairs, and divide the two in certain ways - the speaker and the listener, the giver and the taker, the …